Srila Prabhupada requested his disciples to cooperate with one another. Differences naturally occur, if for no other reason than there are differing perspectives. But differences do not need to be polarizing. They can be beneficial, especially if we understand the varied points of view from a broad perspective. If we can work out our differences on our own by utilizing available communication and resolution tools, that is clearly desired. When there are no other means for resolution, then it’s best to seek help.
Looking for help?
Here’s what you need to do:
- Take a few moments for genuine reflection. Step back and consider the overall situation. Consider you needs, your wants, your reasoning and perspective. Consider the same for the others involved. Where is the common ground? Can you see possible good intentions from all parties involved? Can you see a bigger picture? What are the essential points that need clarification? Where is there room for give and take? Do you owe anyone an apology?
It is feasible that better understanding can point the way to a mutually satisfying resolution.
- Take out a piece of paper and answer, in writing, the following questions.
Who is involved, (list the individual stakeholders).
What does each party want? (list what each individual wants to the best of your understanding).
What is the conflict?
Do you think resolution is possible?
What are possible resolutions?
- Review the self help tools available on this website to see if any of these tools will be helpful to you. Now that you have given objective, broad-minded consideration to the overall situation, you are ready to take the next step.
- Consider: Having contemplated your situation and reviewed the self help tools, do you have the means, on your own, to resolve your issue. If not, is someone you can work with locally to find resolution, and / or.
You may contact ISKCON Resolve to speak to a Resolve ombuds representative.
Problems are best addressed locally, so:
- First try to resolve your issue by speaking with temple leaders, your GBC, or with trusted and equipoised members of your local devotional community. ISKCON Resolve can provide guidance and relevant guides for someone in your local area who is willing to help.
- Also look to local colleges or universities, or court mediation services. A simple phone call may direct you to individuals willing to help your temple community free of charge. Worried that they’re not devotees? Well okay, but there is a good side to that…you can be much more sure that they will be neutral and confidential. So, check into it…problems do arise and we do often need help sorting through them.
- If neither of these two methods work for you, contact ISKCON Resolve.